ok peeps, the following advice came from a newfound friend online, april (or feathers) http://mytenfingers.blogspot.com/

those bolded and in colours have my heartfelt sentiments so peeps (guys especially) do take note ya?

15 rules of DON'T!! (courtesy of feathers)

A little top for those who are currently single or going after any particular target. The content DO NOT arrow any particular person although some of u might find it familiar. It reflect my personal views only and does not necessarily represent the majority of the female population. I will not be held responsible for any failure in courtship or relationship resulting from following the 15 rules stated. If u are still curious u may continue to read this entry.

1. Don't meet up more than 3 times a week!! Most of you guys should know what "personal space" means. For those who don't, please spare a thought for her other suitors as well, as treating her other suitors well will win u some brownie points.

2. Don't be stingy. It's ok to go dutch if she offers to pay. If she doesn't, then it's about time to open up your wallet to check if you can afford her.

3. Don't act as if you don't care when you do. But of course if you can act well, go ahead. If not, don't make yourself look like a clown trying to impress her by acting like you can resist her charm. She knows you better than you think.

4. Don't even hint that you like her when she is attached. It just shows that you are a jerk!!

5. One thoughtful gift is more than enough. Please spare a thought for her if you intend to flood her room with useless gifts. The most memorable gift I received is an eye drop from a stranger I have never met, my eye was reacting horribly to some allergies at that time. That stranger is now my bf. Winnie the Pooh, Mickey Mouse and Hello Kitty is sooooooooo OUT already. Unless you're going after a teenager, you can forget about it altogether.

6. Handicrafts are nice and sweet only when you are 16. Grow up!! Not that we want to be materialistic but lets be realistic, those things does nothing but take up space and attract dust!

7. Don't say "Lets just be friends" if u secretly hope otherwise. Its the same with "Lets be brother and sister" when you're hoping for something else. Its a big fat lie!! I'm sure you wouldn't like to be lied to. She will feel so betrayed if she ever finds out the truth.

8. Don't criticize her no matter wat. She will remember very well. Suitors are forever second rated friends, not because gals like to treat them like slaves but its more to the fact that you are there for her cos' u have a motive. Simple as that.

9. Don't tell her that she is the most beautiful woman on earth even if she is. All women want to be treated like human, and not like some goddess. Who needs to be pressured to look good in front of their partner at all times? If she loves hearing all that praises, she probably loves herself too much to be your gf. Get the idea you mortal boy?

10. Don't be too confident of yourself no matter how charming you think you are. We women love nothing more than seeing a Mr Smart Guy get his big ego burst and watching him fall flat on his face from his little dreamland up there. Thats for underestimating us. Ha!

11. Don't cling on more than 6 mths, max. Just face it, if she likes you for even a tiny bit, she probably would've accepted you ages ago.

12. Don't be an angel. We don't want to look like a mortal or worse, devil beside you with your angelic thoughts and actions. We also don't need our parents nagging at us for “bullying” you. Quit acting like one, we know you are not one!!

13. Don't pressurize any gal into accepting you. Believe or not, this is one of the most successful method used BUT thats for small gals. Big gals know how to tell you to get lost if they don't like the pressure you are giving them. And also, the relationship normally won't last because they didn't think clearly when accepting you. They just want to get that noisy buzzing sound outta their ears.

14. Don't ever piss their BEST FRIEND off!! Most of you should already know the amount of bad mouthing she can do to you. Even if she doesn't, the eye rolling expression she gave at the sound of your name can do a big enough damage.

15. Don't be a copycat, or worse, ask someone else to do the “romantic” things you claim you did for her. For example: going after her because your friend is going after her friend, send her flowers because her other suitors did, bring her to the beach because the whole world is doing it… blah blah blah… The least romantic thing is to copy ideas from other people. Make an effort to THINK and be SPECIAL.